Have you ever heard that phrase "the walls have ears"? In reality they do. One of the biggest mistakes parents make is having discussions or arguments when their children are home. Some parents even try to argue in a lower tone thinking their kids aren't listening, when in reality, they are. A few months ago, I was talking to a little girl that is about five years old. We were having lunch together with her mom, and when her mom left the table to make a phone call, the little girl took advantage to talk to me. She said, "Claudia, I need to tell you something, but please don't tell my mom". I picked her up and put her on my lap and asked her what was wrong. She then put her down and told me, "Claudia, I have a lot of problems. Yesterday, I heard my parents fighting and I was listening to them and they said they were going to seperate".
Imagine how this child was feeling? And the worst part, was that her parents did not have a clue that she knew what was going on. When a couple is having problems or differences, it is always best to talk preferrably, when the kids are not home, or if they are home, to find a place where they can talk privately. Because if the parent(s) is not careful, they can hurt their child emotionally or even cause their son/daughter to behave differently because of what they are being exposed to. Remember, the mind of a child is like a sponge. Everything they see and hear they absorb, so be vigilant.
Listen, my sons, to a father's instruction;
pay attention and gain understanding
Proverbs 4.1
Tip #1: Be Discreet
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